It’s the saying that love is a journey, not a destination.
If it’s to last, must lie in the journey, not in the destination; in the moving of two people towards common goals, not in the goals themselves. It’s not a competition to be won, nor a mark to be achieved. It doesn’t exist in the check points of a to-do list.
It runs parallel to all that, bubbling along quietly and settling as it pleases. And all we can do is hope that where it settles is with us, and long enough for us to really appreciate it for what it is.
But its our egos what seem to get in the way of understanding those who we love and care about. Often it is our need to be right that makes what others think and feel so wrong for us. I have certainly been quite guilty of this in my relationship.
I read a note written by a beautiful lady after the fight with her love that completely changed my outlook
"And i thought you cared. You do I know. I guess its the understanding problem between us. We should be resolving it. Me or him we have to lose our ego to understand each other and to be with each other. If we want to be together. We need to understand each other"
Understand your love. Lose your ego and enjoy this beautiful journey without an end.